Tuesday, October 18, 2005


It is an interesting process to watch a societal--dare we say, a moral--problem move from hushed taboo to grudging acceptance to full acceptance and finally to celebrated occurrence. We've watched it with homosexuality as we have, um, 'progressed' to 'gay pride' parades, et al. Divorcees are jumping on the bandwagon with divorce parties:
With nearly half of all marriages ending before 'til death do us part, divorce has gone from a private shame to a peculiar rite of passage.

Even in the Muslim world, where divorce is still a disgrace, divorce parties offer a way for women to redeem themselves.

In Morocco, single men are invited to the party and they bring the woman perfume, money, even camels. The party lasts for three days or as long as it takes for the woman to find a new companion.

America may not have the camels, but we do have businesses that are cashing in on the breakup party circuit. Plumparty.com sells all the fixings for a great bash. Theytookeverything.com offers a divorce gift registry. And, thousands of copies of "How to Throw a Divorce or Breakup Party" have been sold.

Available at your local bookstore.


marc780 said...

Makes you really, seriously wonder why anyone gets married in the first place, doesn't it. The more time goes by the more stupid, outmoded and obsolete does marriage seem to me.

Alan said...

Marc, if it wasn't for God's creation of that relationship, my own eleven year relationship with my loving wife and the great blessing of our daughters I might be inclined to agree with you. But as it is, I can tell you that marriage is a great blessing.

Anonymous said...

Thanks for this Good post.

I'm from India. The moment you talk of divorce my thoughts go back to my country...

As of date, under the Hindu Marriage act, there is NO concept of a NO fault divorce. However divorces are on the increase in India !!. In many cities there is a runaway increase :-(. This isn't just my statement, but the statistics coming out of many a news report.

A latest report states "...In Andhra Pradesh ( a state in India with stellar success in the Info . Tech boom), for example, a third of all the pending cases related to “atrocities on women” as on June 30 2005 are those under sections 498 and 498(A). In the first six months this year, 3801 new cases under just these two sections were instituted....." (these two sections are regularly used by women in India to claim "cruelty" , mistreatment or dowry related cases TO GET A FAST DIVORCE :-((

Since no fault divorce doesn't exist, many women end up finding a fault to get a divorce. The bottom line is that men and women keep fighting each other - no fault or with faults !!

Well... Well...

While the western world generally feels that Divorce is a western disease due to gay marriages, break down in society etc etc.., it's not so any longer. Divorce is becoming India's challenge

India is a perfect example of a confused state between western and the oriental world. The society is fast westernizing but laws can't catch up. Aspirations are impractical and the legal system is left with loopholes for the unscrupulous to exploit. Many personal laws are antiquated. The Hindu Marriage act has been left un touched for a decade and in itself a problem. Divorces cases are ending up in bitter battles. Many reach up to the Supreme Court of India, after the couple have lost a decade litigating

In India and in Asia life styles are changing every day. Aspirations are changing. Women are clamoring for more freedom. The joint family system which was the bed rock of Indian / Asian society is crumbling.

One should note that India is supposedly an economic powerhouse but has little or no old age support from government. Traditional families are also know to spend entire savings to educate their sons.

As a result families are dependent on their sons to maintain them.

After the son is educated, he gets married. When a wife comes in and throws her in-laws (son's parent's) away, aged parents (who had spent their entire savings on the sons) and other Dependant siblings are on the streets.

Honest men who resist these moves are often jailed using pro-wife laws.

The females want to live in style. When boy's family fails to cope up with the demand, the girl very cleverly uses the law to her rescue. The law still recognize an Indian wife as the helpless woman, she uses wife supporting provisions to frame (say 498A) false charges against innocent men. This leaves elderly parents, husband's siblings behind bars and penniless. The law unnecessarily pampers the women in India.

Women often succeed with divorce cases women because of sections like 498A and 406B. The guys go bankrupt.

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